Teen years are dead ahead…..

Teen years are dead ahead…..

I must admit after seeing everything others go through with their teens, it’s kind of a scary thought.  First of all if you want to live at home and have the benefits of room n board, plus being fed and clothed, cell phone bill paid and so forth at almost 20 years old.  Then by golly the dishes need done, the floors need done, the bathroom needs clean, my gosh clean your room!  It’s your room after all you shouldn’t want to live in a pigsty.   You have a mom who like most isn’t going to be perfect, but always has your best interest at heart!  Rules are to followed not broken, I mean if you cannot follow rules at home how can you on your own?  Even as a renter you have rules and things you have to comply with.  Life doesn’t just become easy when you move out of mommy’s house it becomes REAL!  Oh ya it’s great at first, you think wow this is so cool to be on our own doing what we want.   That’s when you can do what you want, come and go as you please well as much as the significant other will allow.   One thing you don’t do is let another person influence you because they just want to be with you.  Being in a relationship with another teenager doesn’t equal you can do whatever you please cause the other person said you were told about something.  You don’t do anything, you don’t put in on anything, you follow rules and ask!  So what if you’re about to be 20 years old!  Get a dose of reality and go find a place without the help of your mama!  Things aren’t all that peachykeen!  Moving out is a big deal and until you can get a car, keep a fulltime job and then move out, you’re really not ready!  Take what you have now as an advantage and I don’t mean take advantage of people.  I mean while you have this no rent time, no phone bill time and free food GO TO SCHOOL! Do something with yourself!  Life doesn’t get any easier, it gets harder till you LEARN how to manage!  I love my friends and family, but I’m scared for when my child is a teen.  I will be a force to be reckoned with and I will be heard if I have to physically put it in his ears!  I can agree on one thing with Judge Judy that is whenever a teenager is talking, they are lying! They have lots to hide!  I sure hope this situation gets resolved in a nice fashion and no one leaving or moving out or with feelings hurt.  Sometimes tough love is all you can do though no matter the age!  Going on 20 years old doesn’t equal adult, it’s just a number that comes after 19 which is freshly no longer a teen.

 Kids today need to learn and understand the boundaries of living at home with parents.  Most parents only want what’s best for their babies that are growing up.  I know it’s got to be hard and it’s approaching fast for me!  I give props to all the parents who do it every day!  Once these teens really grow up and hit around age 28 to 32 then they will understand what life is about and what really being grown up is!  In fact most then ask parents about things because they learned as life goes by that mom (or dad) was right about a lot of things.